Shhhhh. Listen very carefully. This is top secret, not many are being trusted with this information, but we have been watching you and we believe that you can handle it… you can handle it right???
Ready??
Are you sure???
Ok, here it is…
You know The secret??? The one with on TV, at the book stores, from that lady in Australia???
It’s not a secret… It has been around forever. The first time it was introduced to the populace was through Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” published back in 1937. Seth talked about it through Jane Roberts in the 70s and Jerry and Esther Hicks reintroduced it with the teachings of Abraham. It is talked about in quantum physics. Yes, quantum physics… you know??? Einstein… And it is brought up in churches all around the world, you have heard of it,... the power of prayer, yeah...
I love the new buzz around the law of attraction. Everyone has discovered the Secret and with it they have the key to open the up the treasures that the world holds.
Whoa!!!! Hold the Indiana Jones music and pay close attention…
IT’S NOT EXACTLY LIKE THAT!!!!
You are not going to make a list a put it under your pillow and then get it…
Well, it is like that, but it’s not…. Hang on… Let’s create clarity!!
The law of attraction, which the Secret is based off of, says that you will get that which your heart desires…
NOPE!! Read again…
The Law of Attraction says: That which is like unto itself, is drawn… In English, if you please???
Like magnets, the law of attraction brings into your life what you are thinking, what you are talking about and mostly what you are feeling.
Everything you think about, you talk about, especially, everything you feel… manifests itself.
Like little grains suspended in the atmosphere, your thoughts, words and feelings attract what you are expressing.
I want a million dollars *BINK*
Not that kind of expression… your innermost expression, your emotions.
Whatever you end up saying or feeling ends up coming through in your manifestation.
So you must get clear about your thoughts, about your feelings. You must address them with integrity and clarity in order to bring about that which you really want. You can’t wish for John, down at the corner, to fall in love with you. The law of attraction says that everyone has free will and you may not impose upon them.
You also can’t pretend or try to fake out the law of attraction. Again, it is based on emotions as well. So if you are wishing that you had a better relationship with your coworker, you can’t be calling her a bitch behind her back. Because what will manifest are your feelings of animosity.
So, you have to get clear.
Clarity is achieved with honesty and integrity. Clarity is what leads you on a never ending path of self-discovery, because just as sure as you discover what you want, you discover why you wanted it and suddenly another desire is borne out of that new knowledge.
However, I must advise you. With great power comes great responsibility. No, it’s not just an interesting line from Spiderman; it is also a truism. If you are ready to create a world of riches and the fabulous life that you deserve, and you certainly deserve it, you must take responsibility for everything that has happened to you.
Everything??? Yes! Everything.
I am in an unhappy marriage. My husband doesn’t make me happy!!! Nope, you make yourself happy.
I hate my job, my boss hates me, that’s why I can’t be promoted, if I was I would be making so much more money!!! Nope, you have to take responsibility; you either work with your boss or move on elsewhere. You live the misery daily because you choose to.
My mother hates me; she treats me like if I was still a little child! Nope, you allow your mother to treat you so.
There are too many examples to list here and some that I myself don’t understand. However, I do know that in order to create and manifest and build that wonderful life you deserve, you have to be empowered and to be empowered, you have to take responsibility and to take responsibility, you must look at yourself honestly and see why you did what you did and where you deviated from the path you had dreamed for yourself.
Well, I don’t believe in the law of attraction, Claudia.
That’s ok. The law of attraction does not require that you believe in it. The law of attraction can be seen at work all over the world, subtle and discreet way. Have you ever spent all morning thinking about a person and end up running into them or they call you that morning??? Law of attraction in action!!! Unbeknown to its users, the law of attraction has been around forever. This means that prayer, wishing in front of a well, and rubbing the Buddha’s belly when you walk past it, yep, it’s all connected.
If you were to make a chart of all religions and all methods of faith, you will realize that they all include some form of “faith” and believe in your thoughts and deeds.
Now, I am not here to lecture you in how to use the law of attraction or how to manifest, much less what you should be manifesting about.
I am here to tell you that this tremendously powerful tool has been around forever. No one recently discovered it. It is not a secret. People have had their prayers granted for millennia and it has been called by just about every other name that you can think of.
When the televangelist tells you that he has healed someone off the coast of Papua New Guinea, he is absolutely right. That is called concert manifestation. It is two people working through belief (read faith) and creating a result. The bible says “For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them." Matthew 18:15-20. The bible can be interpreted that where they are gathered physically, but people gather spiritually too. Just think of the emotions you felt and solidarity that 9/11 evoked. Think of the feelings the aftermath of the earthquake in Haiti created in all of us. It spurred people into action and a new sense of nationalism was born in the United States and help has flocked to Haiti.
So, if all of us together, working together can create these moments, out of the emotions that we feel en masse, what can we create on an individual level? The possibilities are boundless.
Don’t believe me? I challenge you
This is a game that I played with my best friend years ago. And whenever someone is open to it, I always challenge them too. This is your chance.
On a piece of paper, write ten things you want. But write them in the present tense, as if they had already come to you.
Fold the paper put it in your wallet, in your purse, or whatever it is you take with you all the time.
When you have an extra few minutes, think about your paper; think about how your life will be changed when those ten wishes come true and how much you will enjoy them.
I guarantee you that in a year, half of your list will have come true and whatever didn’t come true, you ended up discovering you didn’t really want.
But, there is a trick, you have to believe. Don’t believe in me. Believe in the feelings and emotions that come up when you think about all your wishes having come true. They are the motor that will make your wishes come to you. You will have manifested them. Your prayers will have been answered. Nirvana within your reach.
Happy Manifesting!!
Namaste
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Jesus Christ
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” -Buddha.
“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.” Khalil Gibran
(For continued reading about the law of attraction, I recommend reading books by Dr. Wayne Dyer, Abraham Hicks and the works of Seth and of course, the teachings of Jesus Christ!!!)
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Facebook and Relationships
People come in and out of your life. It is a process, a general occurrence and it does not reflect ill on you or the person making their exit, it is just expired time together. Life pulls you down different pathways and well, you walk away from each other.
Most people move on, most people are ok with this and shrug it off to life being life and well, you just deal with it.
But it doesn’t have to be so anymore. Facebook helps you reach into corners of the world where you thought you would never go back to. You reconnect with people whom you thought were long gone from your life and through the computer and a little voyeurism, you can instantly create an artificial intimacy (technology).
What happens when you reach out to someone who does not reach back?
What happens to that friend’s request? Does that person ignore it? Does it mean that they are glad that you are out of their life? Do the memories that live in your mind; are they not the same for the other person? Why have they not accepted you? Perhaps they didn’t get your request? Perhaps they did get it and seeing it did not evoke the same feelings in them as they did in you. Perhaps they have indeed moved on and see no more room for you in their life. Perhaps they cannot reconcile the person they were with the person they are and you are just a reminder of that. Perhaps, well, we could speculate until the end of time and we will never know.
Truth is that Facebook allows us to be a bit more impersonal when it comes to the end of these relationships. But in reality the stream of life brings people in and out of your path, constantly.
Relationships are extremely difficult. It is at the very least an exchange and if both people have not achieved and fulfilled the purpose of that relationship, you may find yourself dragging it out for a long time.
At times only words need to be exchanged to achieve closure, at times only goodbyes need to be said and sometimes, some of us, only want acknowledgement.
Even in families, there are branches that don’t connect to one another and despite efforts to create cohesiveness; you cannot force something that is not there, that doesn’t naturally grow there.
A relationship cannot be coerced into being when it doesn’t flow. If you don’t like your aunt Bertha, chances are you wont be very close to her, you might love her, but you wont feel that closeness. And then there are those that inspire in you more and they are not even blood relationships. They are people who came into your path and became the support system that you desired and they are now an integral part of your life.
There are no rules when it comes to this.
We wish for love to flow with our relatives, with our close friends. Sometimes even siblings are not very close. And we think that it should not be so, that we should count on each other and that we should love each other and be there for one another. And sometimes that does happen. My sister was one of the closest friends that I ever had, and I was honored when she called me her best friend. However, there are times when my mother’s personality and mine crash and it is better not to talk to each other because communication has broken down.
There are some people who are unable to create very many relationships and the ones that they do build, run very deeply. There are also those that have millions of friends and no one who is really close enough.
In a world with as diverse individuals as we are, the ways and shapes of relationships all depend on the people who are involved in it. Making a relationship work is WORK. It takes honesty and compassion and patience and forgiveness and willingness to see the person not with the critical eyes of logic, but with the accepting eyes of love.
When a relationship is important to you, you put the relationship’s needs above your own needs. You understand that like a living organism, the relationship requires your love and continuous nurturing. That it is a meeting of equals and sometimes, requires that you only lovingly listen or put a loving arm around someone, when they are down and out. A relationship does not ask that problems be solved; it only asks that you stand fast in the face of the storm. It does not ask of you that which you would not willingly give. It has limits and boundaries but those are only set in order for the relationship to grow, not to change, mold or hinder the people involved.
And for all the differences in relationships, the most important concept is that if it’s ok with you, then it’s ok. You define the parameters of your relationship; you define the hows, wheres and whys, no one else. There is no rule book that you must follow. As with all relationships, the way it flows is entirely up to you. You are there to fulfill the purpose of you and the other person in it. No one else needs to be satisfied by this relationship (unless there are children and that is something else).
There are no rights or wrongs in relationships as long as all willing partners accept the circumstances. There is no one who can define a relationship for another nor can you demand a relationship of another, it is made of equals amount of love and respect and a healthy and generous portion of independence. Because in order for relationships to grow, they must be free.
So as you reach out for that person whom you had a personal relationship with, or someone with whom you are supposed to have an excellent relationship with, remember that relationships happen, they are not made or demanded. They are one of your greatest desires fulfilled, because as humans we want love and support.
Facebook, MySpace, emails, texts, skype and all the other technology are only tools. It is up to you to.
If you are involved in a relationship and you feel that the other person is not an equal or is not equally invested in the relationship and you have tried talking to them to no avail, then walk away. Sometimes the best relationship is the one you let go.
“ Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” GALATIANS 6: 7-9 (KJV)
Most people move on, most people are ok with this and shrug it off to life being life and well, you just deal with it.
But it doesn’t have to be so anymore. Facebook helps you reach into corners of the world where you thought you would never go back to. You reconnect with people whom you thought were long gone from your life and through the computer and a little voyeurism, you can instantly create an artificial intimacy (technology).
What happens when you reach out to someone who does not reach back?
What happens to that friend’s request? Does that person ignore it? Does it mean that they are glad that you are out of their life? Do the memories that live in your mind; are they not the same for the other person? Why have they not accepted you? Perhaps they didn’t get your request? Perhaps they did get it and seeing it did not evoke the same feelings in them as they did in you. Perhaps they have indeed moved on and see no more room for you in their life. Perhaps they cannot reconcile the person they were with the person they are and you are just a reminder of that. Perhaps, well, we could speculate until the end of time and we will never know.
Truth is that Facebook allows us to be a bit more impersonal when it comes to the end of these relationships. But in reality the stream of life brings people in and out of your path, constantly.
Relationships are extremely difficult. It is at the very least an exchange and if both people have not achieved and fulfilled the purpose of that relationship, you may find yourself dragging it out for a long time.
At times only words need to be exchanged to achieve closure, at times only goodbyes need to be said and sometimes, some of us, only want acknowledgement.
Even in families, there are branches that don’t connect to one another and despite efforts to create cohesiveness; you cannot force something that is not there, that doesn’t naturally grow there.
A relationship cannot be coerced into being when it doesn’t flow. If you don’t like your aunt Bertha, chances are you wont be very close to her, you might love her, but you wont feel that closeness. And then there are those that inspire in you more and they are not even blood relationships. They are people who came into your path and became the support system that you desired and they are now an integral part of your life.
There are no rules when it comes to this.
We wish for love to flow with our relatives, with our close friends. Sometimes even siblings are not very close. And we think that it should not be so, that we should count on each other and that we should love each other and be there for one another. And sometimes that does happen. My sister was one of the closest friends that I ever had, and I was honored when she called me her best friend. However, there are times when my mother’s personality and mine crash and it is better not to talk to each other because communication has broken down.
There are some people who are unable to create very many relationships and the ones that they do build, run very deeply. There are also those that have millions of friends and no one who is really close enough.
In a world with as diverse individuals as we are, the ways and shapes of relationships all depend on the people who are involved in it. Making a relationship work is WORK. It takes honesty and compassion and patience and forgiveness and willingness to see the person not with the critical eyes of logic, but with the accepting eyes of love.
When a relationship is important to you, you put the relationship’s needs above your own needs. You understand that like a living organism, the relationship requires your love and continuous nurturing. That it is a meeting of equals and sometimes, requires that you only lovingly listen or put a loving arm around someone, when they are down and out. A relationship does not ask that problems be solved; it only asks that you stand fast in the face of the storm. It does not ask of you that which you would not willingly give. It has limits and boundaries but those are only set in order for the relationship to grow, not to change, mold or hinder the people involved.
And for all the differences in relationships, the most important concept is that if it’s ok with you, then it’s ok. You define the parameters of your relationship; you define the hows, wheres and whys, no one else. There is no rule book that you must follow. As with all relationships, the way it flows is entirely up to you. You are there to fulfill the purpose of you and the other person in it. No one else needs to be satisfied by this relationship (unless there are children and that is something else).
There are no rights or wrongs in relationships as long as all willing partners accept the circumstances. There is no one who can define a relationship for another nor can you demand a relationship of another, it is made of equals amount of love and respect and a healthy and generous portion of independence. Because in order for relationships to grow, they must be free.
So as you reach out for that person whom you had a personal relationship with, or someone with whom you are supposed to have an excellent relationship with, remember that relationships happen, they are not made or demanded. They are one of your greatest desires fulfilled, because as humans we want love and support.
Facebook, MySpace, emails, texts, skype and all the other technology are only tools. It is up to you to.
If you are involved in a relationship and you feel that the other person is not an equal or is not equally invested in the relationship and you have tried talking to them to no avail, then walk away. Sometimes the best relationship is the one you let go.
“ Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” GALATIANS 6: 7-9 (KJV)
Monday, February 1, 2010
Faith
Happy February!!! Here is the first day of the second month of the tenth year in this century. Did I lose you??? It is 2/1/2010.
January has been unique. Much has happened in this first month. Most of it good, some of it not so good and nothing so horrible that it cannot be made better. At least I think so.
There were moments there, though, when I felt very confused. Very lost and in a way reproachful of the things that happened.
For example, unless you were hibernating, you couldn’t have missed the earthquake that shattered Port Au Prince, Haiti. The images of the destruction were spectacular; nothing Hollywood could have come up with could have topped those images. The dead bodies in the street, the rubble, the knowing that under that rubble there were even more people who couldn’t get out. And the lucky ones that did get out and have the job of rebuilding. How do you rebuild? How do you get pass that??? I certainly don’t have an answer.
Later on the month, my cousin called to tell me one of our own was now battling a serious disease. I won’t call it deadly, but it certainly is life altering. I thought of him, so young, so full of life. His children will need him always; his girlfriend, now wife, and his parents. Most of all, I identified with his parents. I am a parent, what if my children ever went through something like that? How can I stand there strong and support my child who fights this battle?
In our own legal battles, we found that Lady Justice is only available to some, not all. In order to reach for justice you need deep pockets, and knowing that “justice” is not within our reach was devastating. How do you deal with this limitation? How do you stand in front of the moment and not let it crush you?
Throughout the day, millions of people will deal with circumstances that can break the human spirit. Millions of people will deal with violence, death, loss, frustration and despair. Millions fall in the path of such battles and others are able to stand, able to face the problem in the face and deal with it, regardless of what it may take.
What makes such a difference? What makes some of us fighters? What gives us the strength to deal with these circumstances and not break?
It is FAITH.
I don’t mean choosing a religion and going to church.
I mean having a knowing in your heart that no matter what, you will prevail, you will be ok, and this too shall pass.
Some of us are taught this through our experiences. Some of us are taught by example and some of us just have it, always, innately.
Faith and Inner Strength are not things that are easily taught. How do you teach someone about that feeling in your gut? that it does not matter that you have hit rock bottom, you will get up and you will get better.
As parents we strive to provide our children with the perfect life to ensure that nothing hurts them, that nothing upsets their world. I don’t know if that works, I do know that as someone who had a “challenging” childhood, I learned to cope and deal when I was very young, my inner strength reached body builder status. It helped that my mother would lean on me for support; I had to be the one with the faith to get us through this. Not a very religious person, I indeed developed faith, on tomorrow, on life and on the fact that like all things in nature, everything restores itself.
I used to often envy those that came from homes that were intact, that were loved unconditionally by their parents. I thought that if I had all of that supporting me my life would have been different.
As I have matured and gotten older, I realize that a lot of that faith and inner strength that propelled me when I was younger still sustains me when I am faced with a problem or a situation. I KNOW that I will be ok, I might fall down and get hysterical, more for the drama than anything else, but I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that I will survive…
I talked to someone this weekend who did not have this inner knowing, who lacked the faith in himself to make a decision. Someone who had created a co-dependent relationship with his mother that he could no longer hear what his inner voice was telling him, all he heard was her advice, her prompting, her control on the reins. He had floundered for the past years without any real direction, following her advice, not that it was bad advice but it took away from him, from his learning, from his growth process, from his faith-building steps.
In her efforts to save him from grief, from pain, from loss, his mother had taken away his experiences and his lessons and his opportunity to create something better. She had lovingly taken over his life. And yes, she had the best of intentions but I gently reminded her, that one day she would not be there and then where would he be? Who will care for him now when she was gone? For she had created an infant in a man’s body, totally lacking any survival skills or instincts, an emotional eunuch.
If at this point this man has not fine tuned his inner compass and his inner strength and his faith, is he doomed to wonder in his path until another woman takes over the place of his mother or will he just live his days without that knowing that all will be well.
We cannot teach our children faith from a book, it won’t be covered in school and even if they do attend Sunday school, not everything will be covered there.
It is our job as parents to give them that. To put together those blocks under their feet so that when they fall they will have something to hold on to, something that will help them get back up again. It is our job to teach them through their own failures and their own contrasts to look beyond the immediate despair and reach to the moment past.
Sometimes the despair is so great that you can only look to it one day at a time, and then little by little your vision expands. And you are able to walk away from the situation stronger than before. Sometimes mistakes are made and sometimes we hurt ourselves or others. However, it is making these mistakes, in taking full responsibility for them that we become fully mature and fully able to look at the world and live a fulfilled life.
So we teach our children Faith. We show them that even if the sun goes away for the winter, spring is usually around the corner. We tell them that sometimes we can stand and fight and sometimes we just take our lesson and walk away with a clearer idea of how to make things better. We tell them that tomorrow is full of the chance to make things better, to make things anew. We let them make their mistakes, carve their path and learn the beat of their own song, because when we are not there to sing it back to them, they will have to carry their own tune.
Listen to your inner voice, love, laugh, leap out and live life and have faith, for all will be well!!!
January has been unique. Much has happened in this first month. Most of it good, some of it not so good and nothing so horrible that it cannot be made better. At least I think so.
There were moments there, though, when I felt very confused. Very lost and in a way reproachful of the things that happened.
For example, unless you were hibernating, you couldn’t have missed the earthquake that shattered Port Au Prince, Haiti. The images of the destruction were spectacular; nothing Hollywood could have come up with could have topped those images. The dead bodies in the street, the rubble, the knowing that under that rubble there were even more people who couldn’t get out. And the lucky ones that did get out and have the job of rebuilding. How do you rebuild? How do you get pass that??? I certainly don’t have an answer.
Later on the month, my cousin called to tell me one of our own was now battling a serious disease. I won’t call it deadly, but it certainly is life altering. I thought of him, so young, so full of life. His children will need him always; his girlfriend, now wife, and his parents. Most of all, I identified with his parents. I am a parent, what if my children ever went through something like that? How can I stand there strong and support my child who fights this battle?
In our own legal battles, we found that Lady Justice is only available to some, not all. In order to reach for justice you need deep pockets, and knowing that “justice” is not within our reach was devastating. How do you deal with this limitation? How do you stand in front of the moment and not let it crush you?
Throughout the day, millions of people will deal with circumstances that can break the human spirit. Millions of people will deal with violence, death, loss, frustration and despair. Millions fall in the path of such battles and others are able to stand, able to face the problem in the face and deal with it, regardless of what it may take.
What makes such a difference? What makes some of us fighters? What gives us the strength to deal with these circumstances and not break?
It is FAITH.
I don’t mean choosing a religion and going to church.
I mean having a knowing in your heart that no matter what, you will prevail, you will be ok, and this too shall pass.
Some of us are taught this through our experiences. Some of us are taught by example and some of us just have it, always, innately.
Faith and Inner Strength are not things that are easily taught. How do you teach someone about that feeling in your gut? that it does not matter that you have hit rock bottom, you will get up and you will get better.
As parents we strive to provide our children with the perfect life to ensure that nothing hurts them, that nothing upsets their world. I don’t know if that works, I do know that as someone who had a “challenging” childhood, I learned to cope and deal when I was very young, my inner strength reached body builder status. It helped that my mother would lean on me for support; I had to be the one with the faith to get us through this. Not a very religious person, I indeed developed faith, on tomorrow, on life and on the fact that like all things in nature, everything restores itself.
I used to often envy those that came from homes that were intact, that were loved unconditionally by their parents. I thought that if I had all of that supporting me my life would have been different.
As I have matured and gotten older, I realize that a lot of that faith and inner strength that propelled me when I was younger still sustains me when I am faced with a problem or a situation. I KNOW that I will be ok, I might fall down and get hysterical, more for the drama than anything else, but I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that I will survive…
I talked to someone this weekend who did not have this inner knowing, who lacked the faith in himself to make a decision. Someone who had created a co-dependent relationship with his mother that he could no longer hear what his inner voice was telling him, all he heard was her advice, her prompting, her control on the reins. He had floundered for the past years without any real direction, following her advice, not that it was bad advice but it took away from him, from his learning, from his growth process, from his faith-building steps.
In her efforts to save him from grief, from pain, from loss, his mother had taken away his experiences and his lessons and his opportunity to create something better. She had lovingly taken over his life. And yes, she had the best of intentions but I gently reminded her, that one day she would not be there and then where would he be? Who will care for him now when she was gone? For she had created an infant in a man’s body, totally lacking any survival skills or instincts, an emotional eunuch.
If at this point this man has not fine tuned his inner compass and his inner strength and his faith, is he doomed to wonder in his path until another woman takes over the place of his mother or will he just live his days without that knowing that all will be well.
We cannot teach our children faith from a book, it won’t be covered in school and even if they do attend Sunday school, not everything will be covered there.
It is our job as parents to give them that. To put together those blocks under their feet so that when they fall they will have something to hold on to, something that will help them get back up again. It is our job to teach them through their own failures and their own contrasts to look beyond the immediate despair and reach to the moment past.
Sometimes the despair is so great that you can only look to it one day at a time, and then little by little your vision expands. And you are able to walk away from the situation stronger than before. Sometimes mistakes are made and sometimes we hurt ourselves or others. However, it is making these mistakes, in taking full responsibility for them that we become fully mature and fully able to look at the world and live a fulfilled life.
So we teach our children Faith. We show them that even if the sun goes away for the winter, spring is usually around the corner. We tell them that sometimes we can stand and fight and sometimes we just take our lesson and walk away with a clearer idea of how to make things better. We tell them that tomorrow is full of the chance to make things better, to make things anew. We let them make their mistakes, carve their path and learn the beat of their own song, because when we are not there to sing it back to them, they will have to carry their own tune.
Listen to your inner voice, love, laugh, leap out and live life and have faith, for all will be well!!!
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